NIGERIA“I’m sometimes taken aback by the hook-up culture here and how people are able to be intimate with people they just met 2 seconds ago. In Nigeria, when you would get hit on, mostly a guy would come up to you and say he wanted to be your friend, not like ‘I think you’re pretty, let’s go out.’ Guys do walk up to you in Nigeria but they try to hide their motives.“In Nigeria, many types of men can be possessive (mostly the ones raised with no form of outside influence) and feel like they should have a say in your life.
I didn’t think that was a thing here until someone I guess I was ‘minorly’ flirting with thought it was okay to grab me and tell me to walk with him instead of my friends.“The whole friends with benefits thing isn’t really popular but people do it on the down low in Nigeria.
However, an extra layer, what we call "dating," has been added to the process of courting.
If you are familiar with computer programming terminology, you can liken dating to a sub-routine that has been added to the system of courtship.
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