Teenage girl dating younger boy
Many guys in their early 'teens' feel uncomfortable when just starting to date.
I told Patrick we could go to parties, sleep in the same bed and smoke cigarettes together all the time. He was at the train station, asking for my address. We sat on my mattress, which was in the middle of the living room floor, for a serious chat. Patrick wasn’t the first younger guy who’d fallen for me.
“You shouldn’t have done that” my cousin said, shaking her head on the drive home. All summer long, I had woken up in a number of strange dorm rooms next to boys with fake IDs.
Instead of looking at this and saying, “Well it’s actually pretty normal to date people who are a year or two older or younger,” the Times reporter brands a bunch of 17-year-olds “cougars in training.” I actually am a little skeptical of relationships where there’s a large age difference, where that age difference reflects a major gap in life experience — which is why I think that, for example, a college sophomore dating a junior in high school would likely pose more issues with power imbalances/potentially predatory behavior than a 30-year-old dating a 34-year-old, even though the age gap is the same. They’re seeking out boys who are within a year or two of their own age, and they’re choosing boyfriends because those particular boys are nice and kind and respectful, and they respect those boys in turn; the boys are choosing girlfriends who are within a year or two of their own age, and who are nice and kind and respectful, and who they respect.
But because the girls are doing something that boys have done , their behavior is problematized, and they’re tagged with the “cougar” slur.
I met the 17-year-old while visiting my 17-year-old cousin in the burbs. After a few shared cigarettes, I found myself making out with him on the hood of my car, our bodies causing the metal to cave where we lay.